Well, here we are again.
Snack dab in the middle of another holiday season, and sliding into the end of another year.
It seems that every year, no matter what I intend, I end up getting super-stressed out. Gifts to be got. More appointments to keep than usual. Parties to attend. Traffic. Travel arrangements. Crowded stores. Projects and aforesaid gifts to be wrapped up.
It always feels like I am running down a mountain with an ever-growing snowball rolling behind me. I can feel the icy snow at my neck. The avalanche threatens. Argh!!!
Let’s all take a deep breath. Just breathe in and hold a few counts, and breathe out, slowly and fully.
I am doing my best to do better this year. I took a day off yesterday to play with my husband. We both run our own businesses so we work 7 days/nights a week, so weekends aren’t really weekends.
But I consciously forced myself to put aside the many pressing things to do, and we took a short drive out of town and went to a day spa.
It was wonderful. Yes, I was jonesing a bit for my cell phone by hour four. But we did it, and it did feel great.
Guess what? Those pressing things are still all there. They did not go anywhere. Nothing fell apart.
I feel more nourished and not miserable in the way I can often feel at times like the end of the year. When I historically drive myself into a worry-filled bundle of stress.
I am remembering to get sleep as I can. Maybe not as much as I’d like, but sleep nonetheless.
Prompting myself (nicely) to drink water! It is easy to start to neglect the little things that are so important and that contribute to a feeling of well-being.
I am (so far) resisting the urge to use food to give myself anything other than sustenance. When I get into what I call Stepford Wife mode – as in, I am driving myself as if I were a robot and have no human needs – it is easy for my system to rebel and turn to food as a way to get the relief, comfort and attention I am no longer giving it. I am trying to take care, pay attention, even though it feels contra to how I tend to respond to the pressure o the holidays.
I am doing my best to maintain the daily practices that keep me connected to my soul: meditation, writing, prayer, gratitude. It is sometimes tempting to say I do not have the time, but they are the things that make the other stuff more enjoyable. They are the things that keep me tethered to myself. Otherwise I am a parade float that just blows off-track and eventually I crash and it is not pretty.
I am taking time to just breathe. Pet the cat. Do nothing for 3 minutes.
Another deep breath.
How are you riding the waves of this time of year? What are your go-to’s for staying sane? Your helpful tips for enjoying the rush?
May your days be filled with moments of connection and serenity within the inevitable chaos.
And don’t forget to drink some water!